Tuesday, November 8, 2011
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I had a very strong impression to get my Mother's "ducks" in order yesterday. I spent almost 2 hours calling the cemetery, funeral home and the company that does the engraving on the stone. Then I wrote her a rough draft of her obit. I printed it all out put in in her file and emailed copies to my 3 oldest kids. They will most not be happy with some things.Daddy always said he and MOM wanted to be cremated and to be buried at sea. Daddy however is on my bookcase in my office and when Mom goes I will have them both placed in the family plot here in NY which has been where family members have been buried since 1833. I believe Daddy is with the Lord and Mom will join him soon enough I don't really think it matters where they are laid to rest really matters. I feel better having made these plans.
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I know it may sound strange, but making preparations seems to be cathartic for me...Unfortunately no one in my family responds when I send them those emails, which makes me feel all the more alone.
ReplyDeletePeaceful, You are not alone at all. I understand completely my children have not responded either. I think they feel I am being morbid. Every decision that is related to my mother's needs is up to me ALONE. That's why I write here blogland I am positive that someone out there has been down the same path. I hope we all find peace someday. Sadly I am not sure even when"they" pass if that will bring quiet to our souls. But for this moment my heart and soul are okay.I am your our too.
ReplyDeleteI know the pain you're going through as I have been through it as well only I was the grandson dealing with losing my grandmother. I hope your preparations go well with your mother, my bests go out to you. I do work at a facility that is working hard to do everything necessary to stopping this terrible disease. If anyone would like current info please visit www.mullanalzheimer.com
ReplyDeleteYour website is awesome! Thanks for sharing.I must admit I wonder what my odds are of developing this horrid disease. My great grandmother had dementia my late grandmother and now my mother have been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. What are my odds? I just turned 61 the maternal side around their 82nd birthday started developing symtoms. I know there is research going on I just hope and pray there will be a way to fight this before I follow in the path of the women in my family!
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