Saturday, August 3, 2013

The date has been set....

        It took  many phone calls, some letters and of course more money. But at last the date has been set. On Saturday, August 24th, at 11am we will put both my parents to rest in the family owned plot (since 1833) here in upstate New York. Brad is out as I type looking for a nice piece of maple or oak to make a box for my Mom's ashes. Daddy is already in a metal canister. The 2 of them will be together in plot 4.
       IT will be a family thing the 3 boys will bring their families, my girls will be with us. Our Pastor will Bless the grave and say a few words. I know I will cry, that is okay.
     After we are done there, we will be going to  a restaurant called Smokey Bones. My parents loved ribs so it seemed like a great place to end. We shall have a toast to Mom and Daddy, eat some ribs and share stories.
       Maybe not the  typical way to celebrate the lives of  ones' parents. BUT;  I have prayed and thought long and hard. I believe  my parents will be okay with this kind of good bye.
         My last entry will be after the funeral. Then I can close the book on "Alzheimer's is Horrid"!
          God Bless you all.


  1. hugs, and thank you for sharing.
    I honestly wonder what me and my family will do..

  2. Peaceful, It has been a lot more difficult than I thought. The money aspect alone is overwhelming. I had no clue that there were fees for opening and closing a grave. Nor that putting names on a tomb stone was so expensive. As I have said before my parents left no funds for any of this. I am just thankful that in 1833 my 4 times great grandfather bought a plot that still has room for 8 more members. Cremation would not be my first choose however it is the most affordable. A friend told me doing this for $2000 was a deal. Thank the Lord we had the money (only because of the settlement from Brad's car accident) otherwise what do you do? I would like to keep in touch with you even after the funeral. I feel we have walked a similar path. I am putting all of this and pictures in book form maybe it will help others walk this path. God Bless you and thank you so much for your support!!! Jewels