Wednesday, October 6, 2010

another visit ...

Off Sami and I went to see the Mom...I stopped and got her black coffee and 2 chocolate donuts from good ol' Dunkin' Donuts. Mom was sitting on her bed just staring off into no where when we arrived. I explained I needed to do an inventory of her clothes before the snow flies and she and Sami headed for the lounge. How can a space that is 10x12 get so filled and so cluttered???
I had once again been called about the disappearance of cotton panties. I went through every drawer and found all but 2 pairs which I assume were in the laundry. I then tagged each drawer with the contents so Mom would know (hopefully ) where to place her clothes. I know the laundry does not have time to do laundry like I do at home but several of her white undies were gray.SIGH!
This woman once ran the OR of one of the biggest hospitals in Southern California. On some level this all must bother her. Or does it? It certainly plays havoc on my soul and heart. I came home and sobbed and was in major dis pare for the rest of the day.
Joe, Rachel, heather and I are all over our colds so IF nothing gets in the way we are taking her out for Chinese dinner on Thursday.
There are 78 days until Christmas I am dreaded them when it comes to Mom. I miss Daddy and I miss her.


  1. Hi-just found you blog and boy do we have a lot in common:) My dad passed away last month and my mom has "the horrid disease"! They had lived in an assisted living for over a year. Right now she doesn't even remember where he is or rather why he isn't there. We didn't tell her of his passing until the day of the funeral and then we had to retell her several times during the funeral. Anyways, just wanted to say thanks for sharing your feelings - I totally understand - the guilt, anger & frustration. I'm sure we could swap lots of stories:) Thankfully I have a sister who shares the burden with me - we laugh, we cry. Please know that you are not alone, I will be praying for you and your mom. Hang in there!

  2. Hi Jewels,
    My Dad's clothes situation is completely frustrating too! He always stuffs clothing into strange places and we never know what is clean or dirty unless we smell them (gross). He is always complaining of people stealing his items, but unfortunately, he's the one that steals items from other people. The place where my Dad lives calls that "going shopping". Maybe someone is "going shopping" in your Mom's room or maybe she is hiding the underwear.
    Hang in there! It's a nice reminder to know it's ok to get frustrated because I'm not the only one. Thanks for sharing.

  3. Lisa and Kristen, did you know that if you have 100 people with Az. 12 will be male and 88 female. I was told this and some other not pleasant facts from the Az. rep who I talk to sometimes. Also the disease is believed to be female genetic marker. There is a test it is $150 and most insurances don't cover it. For me it is really scary my mother is the 4 in a line of woman, all became syptamatic at 82 ish. I pray that in the next 22 years there is a cure!